About The Method…
The Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method™ is made up of three parts. Together, they form a complete map for knowing yourself and building deeper connections
Step into Clarity Connection & Courage!
Most of us have been taught boundaries the wrong way. We wait until things hurt before speaking up, instead of creating safety from the start. The Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method™ changes that. It gives you a clear framework to know what you need, what you will not tolerate, and how to communicate it with confidence.
What the Method Is…
The Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method™ is a complete framework I developed after a lifetime of learning and self-discovery.
It teaches you three essential skills for creating real connection:
The Four Pillars of Needs™
Dealbreakers, Needs, Wants, and Offerings. These are the foundations of who you are and what you bring to relationships.
The Four Stages of Boundaries™
From subtle triggers through to dealbreakers. You learn to recognise where your boundaries truly begin and how to honour them before they are crossed.
The 3 C’s of Asking™
Clarify, Confirm and Collaborate. A simple but powerful process for expressing your needs and building connection instead of conflict.
Together, these three components form a map for understanding yourself, communicating with confidence, and creating relationships that are safe, supportive and deeply connected.
Why It Matters…
Without this framework, we tend to overgive, abandon ourselves, stay too long in relationships that drain us, or hope that others will somehow “just know” what we need. Boundaries then only get voiced in moments of conflict, when it is already too late.
With the Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method™, you begin to feel safe and seen. You can express your needs with clarity. You recognise red flags early and stand firm on your dealbreakers. Most importantly, you create relationships that are built on truth and mutual respect rather than silence or guessing.
This is the shift from reactive boundaries that disconnect to proactive clarity that builds real connection.
Where To Start…
The Proactive Needs & Boundaries Method™ has three parts, but the journey begins with the Four Pillars of Needs™. This is your foundation for understanding yourself and creating healthier relationships.
The Four Pillars are:
Dealbreakers — the lines you will not cross and the non-negotiables that protect your wellbeing
Needs — the essentials you require to feel safe, valued, and supported
Wants — the desires and preferences that add richness, joy, and comfort
Offerings — what you naturally give and what you choose to share from a place of alignment
By starting here, you gain clarity about what truly matters to you. From there, the other two parts of the Method; the Four Stages of Boundaries™ and the 3 C’s of Asking™, become easier to apply in daily life.
“Lyndal helped us find a new way to communicate that was healthy and calm. She got me to start unpacking what I wanted from the relationship – from big goals to daily chores. She was a big help and instrumental in our marriage.”
“Working with Lyndal helped me gain precision and clarity on my wants, needs, and dealbreakers—which has been life-changing.
As someone with a communications background, I thought I knew how to express myself effectively.
But Lyndal’s approach and guidance gave me leverage to better communicate my needs with a clarity that transformed not just how I see myself, but how I navigate all my relationships.This work has been invaluable, whether you’re in a relationship or single, needing to be heard or seeking deeper connection, Lyndal will help you find your voice in ways that truly serve you.
I can’t recommend her highly enough.”
“You are and will always be your greatest teacher, and true change can only come from within”